How Does One Build The Mindset Muscle-Resilience?
That is not to say that they were not good parents but times were different then. These days, parents are constantly running their children from one activity to another, and kids get chauffeured to school, with few exceptions who walk or catch the bus.
In fact, there are Walk to School programs to encourage children to walk to school. How many people worry about rain in case they get a little bet wet?
I do realise that it is a different world today and, with distances being covered and safety issues, parents want to make sure their children get to school safely.
The point is not really about walking in the rain or the heat- it is about persevering and pushing through things, without making excuses or giving up.
So those experiences are very personal to me and shaped the person I am. It has helped me through a very challenging time when I found out what it was like to want to give up and I experienced an extreme low, which was out of character for me.
Somehow, I got through it as, even though I found it difficult, I still turned up for work and asked for help in the right channels, to build my resilience again.
Resilience is the factor which helped me on my journey.
WHEN FEELING OVERWHELMED- DOWNSIZE!
This also helps you to prioritise what needs to be done, and in what order.
So it actually clarifies the task mentally for you, which in turn makes you understand what you are doing and gives you momentum.
MAINTAIN AND MAKE NEW CONNECTIONS WITH LIKE MINDED, SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITIES
A handful of caring people who listen to you can be the difference between a person giving up or deciding to push through a very difficult time.
These are the people you let into what is happening in your life. They teach you the difference between positive support and negative judgement.
It can be surprising where that support comes from!
REMEMBER THAT REALITY IS REALLY SOMEONE’S PERCEPTION OF A SITUATION.
When I was concerned about a family member's perceptions and behaviour, I visited a trusted doctor to discuss what I was seeing and hearing.
It was valuable as he verified what I had been thinking: that the person had an undiagnosed social disorder.
Then, you need to be pro-active and protect yourself as sometimes you can trust family values and compassion but not everyone thinks like you do. Don't disregard your gut feeling and professional advice!
Remove yourself from situations where one can manipulate situations and bring you down.
Look for ways to change negative situations into positive situations. The challenges in front of us can teach us to improve ourselves, if we choose to learn from the experience.
They had a need to cut costs because of a variety of decisions they had made throughout the years as they had not made necessary changes earlier and were then forced into making financial decisions that hurt of a lot of loyal, highly experienced staff.
It was a blow but it taught me so much. I do not think I would have learnt how to build websites, learn internet marketing, blog and make friends from all over the world, if the changes to my career had not happened.
COPING WITH STRESS
Under the guidance of the Occupational Therapists, each student had a calming strategy suited to their level of functioning.
Yoga can help us to focus on our breathing and take the focus of whatever is upsetting us. The focus on our breathing will control those hormones which build up with anxiety and damage our body.
A simple technique with the children I taught, was to breathe in and then out to the count of five.
We also taught them to recognise their symptoms so they could use the technique independently, such as an awareness of their heart racing, flushed face, etc. This is a simplistic account of the more in-depth strategy we employed with children.
For adults, if you don’t do Yoga, you can do a breathing exercise by choosing a number e.g. 3, then breathe in to the count of 3 seconds, then out for the same time and repeat for 3 minutes. You can increase this also.
This is a method also taught to those in dangerous situations eg.those in combat, such as SEALS, so don't dismiss its effectiveness.
Most people would put up pictures of holidays, cars, houses and other items they wished to buy. So the focus was always monetary based.
Both these imaginings keep me on track with my goals. I may feel dispirited on a particular day but I never give up as I have a great imagination and just could not bear the consequences of failure!
You break that yearly goal down to a monthly and weekly goal and, from there, you can work out how many customers and sales you need to attain your yearly goal.
It is also important to use this strategy of visualisation often – so daydream often!!!!
DEVELOP GRACIOUSNESS BY SHOWING GRATITUDE.
Lots of great posts are appearing which talk about being grateful for things, such as being alive, having a roof over your head, someone who cares for you, daily food etc.
It can override all the positive things that may have happened throughout your day as it has an intensity to it which overrides all else.
To develop a more positive mindset and feel better, it helps to get into the habit of reflecting upon your day and thinking of at least 3 things that made you feel better.
It can be as simple as someone sharing a joke with you, or a stranger smiling and saying ‘hello’.
Some people are advocating the use of a Gratitude Diary to get into the habit of thinking about the positive things that happened each day, rather than focusing on one negative thing and letting the bad reflections build up during the week.
If you want to test your resilience, read this post http://www.lifehack.org/596212/take-this-resilience-test-to-know-yourself-well-before-the-next-big-challenge-comes?ref=mail&mtype=daily_newsletter&mid=20170531_tuning_v1&uid=1415555&hash=72757f7485806d78717f41454c73796d75783a6f7b79&action=click