Understanding Self-Care

 Understanding Self-Care and its Importance  

In our fast-paced lives, women often neglect the most important person in their lives: themselves. The importance of self-care cannot be overstated, especially for those who wear multiple hats—mother, partner, professional, and friend. When we forget to treat ourselves with the kindness and care we so readily oyer to others, we risk burning out and losing touch with our own needs.

 Self-care is not a luxury; it is a vital practice that allows us to recharge and foster a healthier relationship with ourselves. Engaging in mindfulness and meditation practices can be transformative. These techniques enable us to slow down and become present in the moment, promoting a sense of calm and clarity. By dedicating just a few minutes each day to mindfulness, we can cultivate awareness of our thoughts and feelings, which helps to reduce stress and enhance our emotional well-being. It is an opportunity to reconnect with our inner selves and acknowledge our worth.

Skin Care and Beauty Routines

 Natural skincare and beauty routines are another essential aspect of self-care. Taking the time to pamper ourselves with gentle, natural products not only nourishes our skin but also serves as a form of self-love. Whether it’s a soothing face mask or a luxurious bath, these rituals allow us to celebrate our beauty and reinforce the notion that we are deserving of care. This practice can significantly boost our confidence and encourage a positive self-image. 

Arometherapy

Aromatherapy and essential oils provide an additional layer of comfort and relaxation. The use of scents can evoke memories, soothe anxiety, and lift our spirits. Incorporating aromatherapy into our daily routines, whether through diffusers or topical applications, creates an inviting atmosphere that promotes tranquillity. The simple act of inhaling calming scents can remind us to take a moment for ourselves and breathe deeply, grounding us amidst the chaos of daily life.

Journaling

 Finally, journaling for mental health is a powerful self-care tool that allows us to express our thoughts and feelings. Writing down our experiences can provide clarity and insights into our emotional states. This practice not only helps in processing difficult emotions but also enables us to celebrate our victories, no matter how small. By reflecting on our journeys, we honour our growth and remind ourselves of the importance of nurturing our minds as much as our bodies.

Changing My Mindset through journaling 

Taking Time in Nature

This includes walks and exercise outdoors. You get the benefit of the sun on your skin, lungs, and eyes and appreciation of nature when walking and having picnics. Take some time each day to let the soles of your feet connect to the ground-it literally keeps your body grounded.

Social Events

To benefit holistically from your efforts, you must include time for friends and family. You can also include connecting with your spirituality with people who follow your beliefs. 

 Common Misconceptions

 Many women carry the misconception that self-care is a luxury rather than a necessity. This belief often stems from societal expectations that place selflessness above personal well-being. Women frequently feel guilty about taking time for themselves, viewing it as an indulgence rather than an essential component of a healthy lifestyle. It's important to recognise that engaging in self-care is not only beneficial for personal health but also enhances the relationships and communities around them. 

Another common misunderstanding is that self-care must be time-consuming or expensive. Many women believe that to practice self-care effectively, they need to invest in elaborate spa days or expensive beauty products. However, self-care can be as simple as dedicating a few quiet moments to mindfulness or enjoying a warm bath with natural essential oils. The beauty of self-care lies in its accessibility; it can be tailored to |t any budget and schedule, making it achievable for every woman.

 Additionally, some women think that self-care is solely about physical beauty routines. While taking care of one's skin and appearance is certainly part of it, self-care encompasses a much broader spectrum. It includes practices that nurture the mind and spirit, such as meditation, journaling for mental health, and creating a calming home environment with aromatherapy. 

By broadening the definition of self-care, women can unlock the full potential of these practices and experience holistic wellness. The misconception that self-care is selfish can also hinder women's engagement with these essential practices. Many women believe that tending to their own needs means neglecting their responsibilities towards others. 

In reality, prioritising self-care equips women with the strength and resilience needed to better support their families and communities. When women care for themselves, they are more likely to show up fully for others, thus creating a positive ripple effect in their lives. 

Finally, there is a myth that self-care is a one-time indulgence, rather than an ongoing journey. Women may feel that after a brief period of self-care, they should no longer need it. This mindset can lead to burnout and disconnection from one's own needs. In truth, self-care should be a continuous practice, woven into the fabric of daily life. By regularly incorporating mindfulness, natural skincare routines, and reflective journaling into their lives, women can cultivate a sustainable approach to well-being that  lasts a lifetime.

Do you practise self-care consistently?

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Can I afford to pamper myself with self-care products?

Sometimes we put ourselves last as we may think it is selfish to prioritize ourselves on a regular basis.

However, there are many different forms of self-care and it can be just as effective to buy or do something that is inexpensive. 

I used to worry about my finances, after a divorce late in life, and just work, work, work. It's like a treadmill that goes forever. 

One day, I read an article that focused on rewarding yourself each week in some way-and it need not be expensive. So each week, I take myself out of my routine (into a new one) and do something that is different and that I enjoy.

I buy something that appeals to me from Amazon, or paint and draw, or go for a coffee at a cafe! I have bought some of the products listed below and I was so happy when I opened the boxes and saw the great products I had purchased. 

So pamper yourself, relieve some stress, and put a smile on your face. You deserve it.

What self-care products would relax you and bring some happiness to you?

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Practising Gratitude Towards People

Practicing Gratitude-turning talk into practice.

Today, I would like to practice gratitude towards people who have, in some way or other, left a favorable impression on me and remember them with fondness. 

Those who may have shown kindness, integrity, or gone the extra mile for me.

Gratitude for my dad

My dad-the hardest thing is to limit dad to a few short paragraphs! An incredible man who loved his family and community. 

After his death, all the Hungarian clubs in Victoria that mushroomed from the first club he started, stood for 5 minutes silence in his honour, even though he had been off the scene for more than 30 years when he died at 86.

He left Europe to give us a better life and built a tiny bungalow for us to live in while he built our first brick home.

He was responsible for bringing out all our family, giving them free board and food until they could be independent.

The words 'nuclear family' meant nothing to us as we were always surrounded by a huge family, as well as community.

Dad also helped other young men and couples who migrated to Australia. They were always included in family outings and our combi van was always full of people and food.

He built up small businesses as a greengrocer and had a thriving fish and chips business. His days started mostly at 3.30 am to go to the market and home at 6pm.

He was a homing pigeon and always happy to be home, but sometimes did visit his brothers' families who lived in the same street or area, most of the time.

He never charged the family for food they took from our shops.

As the family did not have cars in the early days, he would do the rounds and pick up all my cousins and drive us to school.

He never complained about being tired, and when we were old enough to go out to functions, he would eat, have a shower and get ready to take us out and wait around somewhere until it was time to pick us up after parties, etc.

He always knew how to cut costs but give people a great feed. In his fish and chips business, he made his own fish cakes and they were so popular.

 On Fridays, I had to help as the shop was bulging at the seams with people and the cue went outside the door and down the side street alongside our side fence. 

We had two fish and chips shops on either side of us, just a short distance away- empty, of course!

Later in life, he became a real estate agent. I remember a time when the interest rates were very high in the 1970/80's and it was common for young couples to get second mortgages on top of a first mortgage.

A young couple wanted to buy a house from dad but he refused to sell it to them as he looked over their finances, and said that a second mortgage would ultimately lead them to lose their house and put pressure on their marriage.

The bank had okayed them for the two loans, as they did in those days!

There is so much more to dad, but the loveliest memory was when he would take mum to the station to go to work in the early morning.

 I would hear a clatter in the kitchen and he would bring me breakfast in bed, with a cup of coffee and a rose in a small vase. He always said 'a rose for a rose.'

Gratitude for my teachers

Mostly, and unfortunately, the majority of my teachers were stressed, mean, or just interested in getting information across. 

The teachers that I have fond memories of were those who were able to get off their pulpits and show kindness and have a little 1:1 moment while teaching.

 Just reading what I have written, I wonder why I actually liked school!

My Grade 6 teacher

She was a nun and the kindest one in my four years at catholic school. Nuns could be tough ladies!

I don't remember her hitting us, as part of normal practise at the time, when they were annoyed at someone's antics. 

Often, the whole class copped it so we would get angry at the culprit and put peer pressure on him( yes, it was always a 'him').

My family went overseas for three months so she would sit with me every day, before we went, and taught me what I needed to learn.

Looking back, I would have done well with homeschooling as I was a quick learner and enjoyed the 1:1 sessions.

Mr. Pavlov

Mr. Pavlov was a Russian teacher who was a mixture of strictness but funny! He could get angry but no one was really scared of him.

 If the boys got on his nerves, he called them 'potatoes' and they knew they were out of line.

I remember his kindness- when he roved the classroom, he always spoke kindly to me and asked me how I was going. 

I was not backward in maths but I certainly was not super confident.

 If he thought I wasn't sure of something, he explained the concept quietly at my desk and he always got his message through easily.

Mr. Kuhne

Another maths. teacher who struck terror in us all! 

Everything was black and white and there were no excuses. 

He told us the rules on the first day and stuck to them. 

He took a lineup area and everyone rushed to be on time as even talking to a Principal etc was no excuse- you just had to be lined up on time.

What a nice surprise to find how patient he was on a 1:1 basis, and he made maths so easy to understand that I actually enjoyed it.

 He was kind on a 1:1 basis and was patient with students who needed some support.

 He just did not tolerate rudeness and those who wasted time in class.

Mr. Jones

My art teacher who was just a nice guy. You did not have to be good at art, just enjoy it. He was one of the only teachers, in that era, who allowed us to stay inside at lunchtime.

Miss Simpson

My English teacher for both English and English Literature. When I was a teenager, a lot of learning was 'chalk and talk', with copying from the board or answering questions on paper.

I remember being very upset as Miss Simpson would come in, sit on top of a desk, and just talk or fire questions at us. I was so concerned that my exercise books were empty!

She was encouraging us to think and talk, express our views. Our results were phenomenal- with the majority of our class receiving A's in our final year. This enabled me to get into the college of my choice. 

Miss Helen Welsh

Vice-principal at one of the schools where I do a substantial amount of casual teaching.

Helen has been so kind and this has enabled me to have lots of work, especially working in the grade 1/2/3 area.

She has respect for my experience and, as she asks for me by name when she rings the agency, she has given me a high profile as the agency has said that I am the only teacher that is requested by name!

 I am now an ambassador for the agency.

Rahul and Sheetal

The parents of two young students who I tutor, they are doctors and lead a very busy life as they are on call.

They tell me how they appreciate how I teach their children and asked, this past Christmas, if I would mind if they gave me a raise in pay!

The resident doctor who saved my life.

I was five months pregnant and was taken to hospital with appendicitis. 

 I had a high pain threshold but I remember the incredible pain. I was taken in about 9 pm and they were waiting for a doctor to arrive- a Mr., not just a DR.! 

Well, he just didn't arrive and they had to keep changing the time of my operation.

Finally, he arrived and it was about 2.30 pm next day that I was taken into theatre. By that time, my appendix had burst and the pain was escalating and I just wanted to escape the incredible pain.

The nurses said, with glints in their eyes, how lucky I was to have this doctor operating on me.

Well- Mr. arrived! He walked into the theatre (I was still conscious) and walked over to the nurses where there was a bit of giggling going on. Not even a look at me.

The last thing I remember was the resident doctor being very angry and shouting to others to get me ready for the operation as I was in a bad way.

Well, that week I had round-the-clock checks every 10 minutes. I remember not being able to open my eyes at one point but hearing what was going on around me.

 I remember a very high level of pain. I just wanted the pain to end.

I remember feeling that I could just slip away and then, feeling so scared that I could die, I talked myself into positive thinking mode- you will survive, the team in hospital will look after you etc.

When I left the hospital, the matron and the doctor talked to me separately and said that I had been so ill that it was a miracle that I was still alive. 

They actually used the word 'miracle'. So the feeling I had that I could pass on was real!

They also said that there was no word to describe my baby surviving the operation and my subsequent level of illness. They had expected both of us to die. Yes, they actually said 'die'.

My friend, Rob!

My friend who has stuck by me when I went through a bad depression and was close to a breakdown after my dad died and the family went to pieces.

He was there holding my hand when the doctor and nurse were trying to get my heartbeat back to normal, as they said I was having a heart attack, stress-induced.

He never judged me and understood what I was going through.

Who are you grateful for? Who are your 'standout' people that left their mark on you? I'd love you to share your memory with me.

Who are you most grateful for? Have you actively thought about it? You might surprise yourself with your reflections.

Gratefulness-How can I change my mindset and be more thankful?

Gratefulness and mindset 

I thought I might focus on gratefulness and how to change a mindset so that we are feeling thankful daily and becoming happier, regardless of a taxi being late, our children not getting out of bed, an unexpected bill......

  In a recent post, I discussed how gratitude does impact on our wellness.

I discussed how gratefulness connects us socially to others and also stimulates the part of the brain which sets off a chain reaction that ultimately improves our mental wellbeing. 

This can also work in reverse as negative emotions can also set a chain of chemical reactions, that are invisible to us but nonetheless wreak havoc on our bodies.

 For more reading about the connection between gratefulness and wellbeing, you can read this post.

If being a negative person can harm us physically,  can it also impact on us socially?

Well, how many memes have you seen on social media advising you to stay away from negativity, and that means that some people get a bad name for being negative, toxic, draining, doomsday merchants etc. 

This means that negative people are ultimately seen as bad company, poor examples of parenting, and draining partners or work colleagues! 

They cause negative reactions from those around them and this further embeds their feelings of negativity. 

So are you a positive, thankful person that is socially pleasing to be around?

Check your mindset and gratitude now:

Do you consistently groan about your day?

Do you ruminate on the past?

Do you go to work daily in a bad mood?

If someone mentions something in a positive manner, do you top it off with a negative statement?

Are you a grumbling, bad mood sort of person?

Do you focus on one bad thing that may have happened in the day, and pay no attention to the positives of your day?

Do you find it hard to find positives in your day, if asked?

Do you find it hard to find positive attributes in people? Are you cynical?

Do you feel apprehensive at the start of each day?

Do you feel down about life, life choices, and pessimistic about the future?

Do you feel unhappy regularly?

Do you want to become a more positive person?

We may have some characteristics of some of the attributes listed but they may vary in degrees. On a more personal note, I know a couple of people who are so negative that they can be labeled toxic. 

However, that is the extreme and most people are a mixture of positives and negatives! But there is always room for improvement.

How to form the Gratitude habit.

It takes 30 days to form a new habit and form the habit of Gratitude can lead to more happiness in your life. 

It resets your mind and helps you focus on the positives in your life, instead of dwelling on the negatives.

There are 3 vital components of practising Gratitude in this journal, which help develop your Gratitude mindset. Check this journal out here.